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Baby Names Soaring in Popularity

 




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A topic that comes up over and over again with readers is how to choose names that aren’t going to be too common. I’ve blogged in the past about ways to prevent choosing a name that will be popular in the future.


 


Here’s another great tool from Social Security to help parents. They’ve put out a handy ranking of the names that moved up the chart the most in the previous year. The 2009 stats aren’t due out for another couple months, but here is the data from 2008.


 


These are the names that showed the biggest increase in popularity from the previous year.  What can this information tell you? In the post I mentioned earlier about predicting what names are going to be popular, one of my tips is to avoid names that are quickly rising on the popularity chart. This list helps you figure out what those names are!


 


So, if you’re looking for a name that will be unique, avoid the names on this list because they might be destined for even greater popularity in the years to come. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a trendy or stylish name, you might want to use one of these names.


 


No matter your goal, this is a list you need to know about.


 


Here goes…the top 20:


 


 


GIRLS’ BABY NAMES


 


KHLOE


MARLEE


MARELY


AUDRINA


MARLEY


DANNA


JASLENE


LILAH


PAISLEY


MILEY


LYLA


HARPER


DAYANA


VALENTINA


LONDON


MYLEE


JIMENA


LYRIC


KAYDEN


EMERY


 


 


 


BOYS’ BABY NAMES


 


JACOBY


KANE


BECKETT


PAXTON


KALE


AUGUST


BRAYLON


RYKER


KINGSTON


KOLTON


ZAYDEN


BRYCEN


RIVER


MILO


LANDYN


ALIJAH


CASH


ALVIN


JUDE


BYRON


 


 


What jumps out at me the most is that on the girl’s list there are three spelling variations of the name MARLEY and two variations of MILEY. These are names to avoid (no matter how you spell it) if you want to avoid popular names.


 


There’s some celebrity inspiration on this list — obviously MILEY Cyrus. We also have AUDRINA — it’s a beautiful name brought into the spotlight by Audrina Patridge of The Hills fame. No surprise that it caught the attention of parents. PAISLEY may be inspired by Brad Paisley (quite a creative baby namer himself with sons Huckleberry and Jasper).


 


On the boy’s side we have CASH — the snazzy name of Jessica Alba’s husband, Cash Warren. KINGSTON is the name of Gwen Stephani’s oldest son and it’s probably no accident that his name made it onto this list.


 


Follow the trends… the –en/-on sound at the end of boys’ names is quite hot and this list shows that loud and clear. There’s PAXTON, BRAYLON, KINGSTON, KOLTON, ZAYDEN, BRYCEN and LANDYN. That’s a little more than a third of all the names on the list.


 


Another trend we see represented here is the popularity of location names with LONDON on the girl’s list. Ditto for KINGSTON on the boy’s list.


 


Other names that made the list that may increase in popularity next year:


 


GIRLS’ BABY NAMES


 


AUDREY


CORA


DELILAH


FIONA


LILA


MALIA


PENELOPE


PEYTON


STELLA


VIOLET


 


 


BOYS’ BABY NAMES


 


EASTON


ELI


ELLIOT


FINN


GRADY


GRAYSON/GREYSON


HOLDEN


HUDSON


JASPER


KELLEN


LEVI


MADDOX


WESTON


WYATT


 


 


What names dropped in popularity? Here are the 20 names that took the biggest slide:


 


 


GIRLS’ BABY NAMES


 


ANGELIQUE


YOSELIN


JADEN


KIRSTEN


ANAHI


ALISSA


JULISSA


ASHLEE


MEREDITH


PAULINA


DAYANARA


DIAMOND


JAIDEN


RACHAEL


JOSELYN


ABRIL


PARIS


MEGHAN


JADYN


RYAN


 


 


BOYS’ BABY NAMES


 


ALDO


BRANDEN


OSVALDO


LELAND


BILLY


NOE


RODNEY


JAYLIN


FELIPE


TOBIAS


CAMRON


NATHANAEL


ORLANDO


TERRANCE


JALEN


JADON


CYRUS


SCOTT


JESSIE


CARL


 


 


We see some celebrity backlash here (which always happens eventually) — ORLANDO, CYRUS, PARIS, ASHLEE, JADEN/JAIDEN/JADYN.


 


Now it’s your turn! What do you think?


 


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  Amanda


 


If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.


Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.


 


 


 


For more information on baby names and their meanings check out


BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES


 


 


 

DOUBLE FIRST NAMES: Part 2, Double Names with a Modern Twist

 

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Yesterday, I posted a list of celebrities who use double names (i.e., SARAH MICHELLE Gellar and SARAH JESSICA Parker). Today, I have a list of up-to-date double name options, for those parents who think that two names are better than one.

 

 

 

 

It took me quite awhile to come up with these options. I tried to stay away from the traditional second names like Ray, Lee, Sue, Lou and Jo(e).

 

The boys’ names were especially hard because many options tended to sound that a first and last name instead of a complete first name.

 

I’d love to hear your suggestions for double names! Leave a comment with your recommendations.

 

 

FEMALE DOUBLE NAMES

ABIGAIL PAIGE

ALLISON IVY

AMY CLARE

AUDREY ELLA

AVA MAY

BIANCA BELLE

CHARLOTTE SKYE

CHLOE WINTER

CORA LYNN

ELIZA JUNE

EMILY KATE

EMMA GRACE

ISLA ROSE

LANDRY KATE

LILY JADE

LYDIA BAY

MAYA PAIGE

NORA JANE

PRISCILLA JOY

RUBY BELLE

SADIE CLARE

SAVANNAH ROSE

TESSA GRACE

 

 

WARNING:

 

EMILY ROSE might sound like the perfect match and it is lovely. However, it’s also the name of a horror movie about an exorcism. If you don’t like the association, you might want to choose a different name — EMMA ROSE and EMERSON ROSE are nice alternatives.

 

 

 

MALE DOUBLE NAMES

ETHAN EVAN

HENRY ELLIS

HENRY SCOTT

JACK HENRY

JACK MASON

JACKSON COLE

JACKSON GRAY

JEREMY WYNN

JOHN THOMAS

JONAH ELLIS

JOSHUA GRANT

LEVI WEST

LUKE WYATT

MILO MOSE

PARKER JAMES

WILSON CLAY

ZACHARY TY

BEN WILLIAM

 

 

BABY NAME ADVICE…

One thing to think about are names that are also words with other meanings, like Drew. If you name your son JACK DREW it’s going to sound like a sentence and leave people who overhear you calling his name wondering just what Jack drew. I’m not saying not to do it, but I don’t want you to do it by accident.

 

Here are some names that also double as verbs:

 

MAY

 

DREW

WADE

WILL

BILL

 

Can you think of any others?

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts about double names. Love them? Hate them? Also if you have any suggestions, post a comment and share!

 

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You can also follow me on TWITTER to get up-to-the-minute celebrity baby name news, interesting names I come across and so much more! I’m @babynameauthor!

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

 

 

ASK AMANDA: A Vintage Name with a Good Meaning

 

 

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Welcome to another edition of ASK AMANDA. Today I’m helping parents with a very common question — and one of my favorites.  

 

 

 

Ask Amanda

Q:    We are having our third child in February, a baby girl.  My husband and I love vintage names with great meanings. This time, we are struggling a bit. The baby’s middle name will be Constance.  We do not want to pick a name that is too popular.

 

Any ideas? DANA, Austin, Texas

 

A:    So, you’re looking for a vintage name that’s not too popular, has a good meaning and goes with the middle name Constance. I’m so glad you wrote to me!

 

Here are some suggestions:

 

ALTHEA: “healthy, healing power”

AUDREY: “noble strength”

CORDELIA: “heart”

DAPHNE: “laurel”

ELIZA: “God is my oath”

FELICITY: “happy, fortunate”

MARGOT: “pearl”

NORA: “honor”

ORLA: “golden lady, princess”

 

In case it factors into your decision, the name CONSTANCE is Latin for “loyal.” Sometimes people like to coordinate meanings.

 

I hope you find something you like on this list. If not, there are thousands of options in my book!

 

For everyone out there looking for names with specific meanings, you should pick up a copy of BABY NAMES MADE EASY. It’s the only baby name book that’s organized by the meaning of the names. That makes it really easy for you to find names with meanings you like. J

 

 

Good luck and let me know what you pick!

 

Happy naming,

  Amanda

 

Follow me on TWITTER to get up-to-the-minute celebrity baby name news, interesting names I come across and so much more! I’m @babynameauthor!

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

Interview with Kojii Helnwein about baby names…and her pain-free birth!

 
I’ve launched my first Notable Names feature - an interview with Kojii Helnwein of Project Runway and Models of the Runway. Kojii told me about how she got her unique name and how she chose her daughter’s name. Plus, she had great tips for soon-to-be-parents. Read it for yourself and leave comments here.
 
More name interviews to come…Stay tuned!

 

 

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You can also follow me on TWITTER to get up-to-the-minute celebrity baby name news, interesting names I come across and so much more! I’m @babynameauthor!

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

 

More Alternatives to the Top 10 Baby Names

 

Parents-to-be often fall in love with a name only to see it land in the Top 10 most popular baby names. Some take that as a sign that they have good taste and choose the name without looking back. Others decide to scrap the name and choose something more unique.

 

For those of you who like some of the Top 10 names, but want something that’s not already at the top of the charts, I’ve put together a list of alternatives — names that are similar, but not similarly popular. 

 

GIRLS’ BABY NAMES

 

EMMA        EMBER, ESMÉ, AMABEL

ISABELLA —    ISLA, ISIDORA, IRIS, INGRID

EMILY —         EMERSON, EMERALD, AMELIA

MADISON — MACY, MADELINE, MARLEY

AVA —            AIDA, AVERY, ASTRA, IVY

OLIVIA —        OLIVE, OLYMPIA, OPAL

SOPHIA —      STELLA, SIMONE, SIENA

ABIGAIL —      ABILENE, AUDREY, ANNABELLE

ELIZABETH — ELIZA, ELINOR, BETHANY

CHLOE —        CALLIOPE, CAMILLA, CORA

 

 

 

BOYS’ BABY NAMES

 

JACOB —                    JASPER, JERICHO, JAMESON

MICHAEL —                MICAH, MILLER, MITCHELL

ETHAN —                   ELLIOT, EASTON, ELIAS

JOSHUA —                  JOSIAH, JOSS, JULIAN

DANIEL —                   DANE, DALTON, DASHIELL

ALEXANDER —           XAVIER, ARCHER, ARCHIBALD

ANTHONY —              ANDERSON, ARTHUR, AUGUSTUS

WILLIAM —                WILSON, WALLACE, WALKER

CHRISTOPHER —       CHANDLER, CHARLETON, CRISPIN

MATTHEW —             MADDEN, MALCOLM, MARLOW

 

 

 

What do you think? Do you have a good suggestion for a Top 10 alternative? Leave a comment and let us all know!

 

Also, a big thank you for the comments and emails — I love to hear from readers! J

 

Subscribe to the RSS feed so you don’t miss any future baby name posts.

 

You can also follow me on TWITTER to get up-to-the-minute celebrity baby name news, interesting names I come across and so much more! I’m @babynameauthor!

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

 

4 Tips for Naming Twins

 

Since Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick just welcomed twins MARION LORETTA ELWELL and TABITHA HODGE into their family last week, this seems like the perfect time to discuss baby names for twins.
 
Parents of twins often look for baby names that are related to one another in order to celebrate that special bond only twins share. Parents try to do this in a bunch of different ways and I’ve put together a list of ideas you can consider when naming twins:

 

« 4 TIPS FOR NAMING TWINS «

 

1. SAME MEANING

 

Choose names that have similar or complementary meanings. This is my favorite way to connect names (no surprise!). I wrote about this in the Introduction of BABY NAMES MADE EASY as a way to create a meaningful connection between siblings and their names, without being too obvious or cutesy.

 

A great example of this is Cleopatra and Mark Antony who name their twins HELIOS and SELENE, which mean “sun” and “moon,” respectively. Very cute, without being too cute…

 

 

 

2. SAME FIRST LETTER

 

You can use the same first letter for each name. This is relatively easy and you see it a lot. And I mean a lot… A whopping 8 out of the 10 most popular twin baby name pairings in 2008 follow this patter, according to Social Security. The top 10 are:

 

JACOB / JOSHUA

DANIEL / DAVID

JAYDEN / JORDAN

ETHAN / EVAN

TAYLOR / TYLER

GABRIELLA / ISABELLA

ISAAC / ISAIAH

MADISON / MORGAN

ELIJAH / ISAIAH

ELLA / EMMA

 

The people have spoken here. Clearly, lots of parents like the idea of choosing names with the same first letter for twins. Enough said.

 

3. FAMILY NAMES

 

You can use family names for each child. This is what Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick did — ELWELL and HODGES are both family names.

 

You could take a look at your family trees and either simply choose names you like at random or choose a particular type of relative, such as great grandmothers, and choose from only those options (provided you like those options, of course). You can mix and match from mom and dad’s family trees of just stick with one. Tons of choices here!

 

 

4. SAME THEME

 

When naming twins, consider choosing names with the same theme. For example, choose two different location names or two Biblical names. Rebecca Romjin and Jerry O’Connell chose floral middle names for their twin girls CHARLIE TAMARA TULIP and DOLLY REBECCA ROSE.

 

This is a great idea because there are so many options and you can get really creative about what theme you choose!

 

 

 

Looking for more inspiration? Here are the names of some of the twins born to celebrities in 2008:

 

 

        « CELEBRITY TWINS OF 2008 «

 

 

COCO TRINITY and SAWYER LUCIA — daughters of Diane Farr and Seung Chung

 

EMME MARIBEL and MAXIMILIAN DAVID — daughter and son of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony

 

FINLEY and HARPER — daughters of Lisa Marie Presley and Michael Lockwood

 

JUNO and REX — daughter and son of Marianne and Will Champion

 

VIVIENNE MARCHELINE and KNOX LEON — daughter and son of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt

 

VALENTINO and MATTEO — sons of Ricky Martin

 

 

 

That’s all for today! Subscribe to the RSS feed so you don’t miss any future baby name posts.

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

 

 

 

ASK AMANDA: Baby Names that Mean “Miracle”

 

I think a lot of parents-to-be will identify with this week’s Ask Amanda question…

 

Ask Amanda

Q:    I want the definition of the baby name I choose to be really meaningful. I’d like to find a girls’ name that means “miracle.” Do you know of any?

 

A:    There are definitely a few names out there that mean “miracle,” but not a lot. Baby Names Made Easy is organized by what the names mean, so it’s easy to find names with specific definitions. Here are a couple options:

 

HARIKA — Turkish name meaning “miracle”

 

MILAGROS — Filipino name meaning “miracles”

 

 

If neither of these work for you, consider MIRACLE itself. It ranks as the 484th most popular name for girls in 2008, according to Social Security. This means that other people are using it, but it’s not overly common. If MIRACLE is too off-beat as a first name for you, it might be a middle name contender.

 

 

Another option is using a name with a similar meaning to “miracle.” This opens up your choices quite a bit. Here are a few ideas from the Religion & Faith chapter:

 

DOROTHY — English name meaning “God’s gift.” There are tons of interesting variations for this name, like DOROTHEA, DORA, DORALICE, DOLLY, THEA and THEADORA.

 

NATANIA — Hebrew name meaning “given by God.” This is the female version of Nathan.

 

OHANNA — Hebrew name meaning “God’s gift”

 

THEODOSIA — Greek name meaning “giving God”

 

 

There’s also an entire chapter full of names with meanings related to Blessings & Gifts. Some names with meanings you might like are:

 

 

BEATRIX — Latin name meaning “blessed, bringer of joy”

 

DIARRA — African name meaning “gift”

 

ERI — Japanese name meaning “blessed reward”

 

EUDORA — Greek name meaning “good gift”

 

HALLA — African name meaning “surprise gift”

 

MITSUKO — Japanese name meaning “child full of blessings”

NILLA — African name meaning “blessing”

 

 

I hope this gives you some ideas for how to find names with specific meanings—and how to be creative when you’re not finding exactly what you want.

 

Good luck finding a name you love with a meaning you love, too!

 

 

Happy naming,

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com. Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

 

 

24 Ways to Name Your Baby After Your Relative Without Naming Your Baby After Your Relative

 

You love your Aunt Dorcas and your Grandpa Egbert more than words can say. Unfortunately, their names don’t resonate well to our modern ears. So how do you pay tribute to your favorite relative without using his or her name for your new baby?

 

Here are 24 creative alternatives that will help you choose a name you love in honor of a relative you love:

 

 

1.       FAVORITE FLOWER: Do you always bring your relative a bouquet of flowers when you visit because they’re her favorite? If so, her favorite flower might make a perfect name. Stylish examples include:

 

DAISY, LILY, ROSE

 

 

2.       NAME WITH THE SAME MEANING: Choose a name with the same meaning as your relative’s name. Dorcas means “gazelle” and so does:

 

AYELET, TABITHA, ZEVI

 

 

3.       PLACE WHERE RELATIVE GREW UP: Does your relative have ties to a particular spot on the map? If so, maybe you can turn it into a great name. Consider examples like:

 

CAROLINA, IRELAND, SIENA

 

 

4.       FAVORITE ACTOR/ACTRESS: If your favorite relative has a favorite actor or actress with a name you like, it might work for your baby. These examples have first and last names you could consider:

 

JAMES DEAN, CLARK GABLE, VIVIAN LEIGH

 

 

5.       FAVORITE GEM: If your relative loves a particular precious stone, it might make for a beautiful name. There are a lot of pretty options from this category, including:

 

JADE, OPAL, RUBY

 

 

6.       RELATIVE’S TALENT: Is your relative famous for a particular talent? If so, it could provide you with some name inspiration. For example, if your relative is a wonderful cook known for a particular dish, you might find a name with a related meaning, such as:  

 

Cherry pie: CERISE

Strawberry jam: FRASER

Apricot jam: MORELA

Apple pie: MILOS

 

 

7.       FAVORITE COLOR: Does your relative have a favorite color? If so, you’re in luck because there are some charming color-names, including:

 

INDIGO, SCARLETT, VIOLET

 

 

8.       FAVORITE HOBBY: Is your relative known for a particular hobby? Hobbies can make for interesting and off-beat names, like:

 

FISHER, PAINTER, POET

 

 

9.       FAVORITE VACATION SPOT: Does your relative have a favorite vacation spot? There are a lot of names that have great “location” meanings, including:

 

KAI — “sea”

NEVE— “snow”

RIA — “small river”

 

 

10.   FAVORITE ARTIST: Does your relative have a favorite artist? Consider options like:  

 

GEORGIA O’Keeffe, HENRI Matisse, VINCENT van Gogh

 

 

11.   MONTH RELATIVE WAS BORN: Some months make great names. Maybe the month your favorite relative was born is one of them:

 

APRIL, JUNE, MARCH

 

 

12.   OCCUPATION: What does your favorite relative do for a living? Maybe your child could follow in his or her footsteps. There are many names that have occupation meanings, such as:

 

ASA — “physician”

BAXTER — “baker”

MARINO — “sailor”

 

 

13.   FAVORITE ANIMAL: There are tons of great names with “animal” meanings. For example, if your relative is a birdwatcher, in addition to obvious choices like LARK and ROBIN, there are names like:

 

MARLON — “little hawk”

MERLE — “blackbird”

TORI — “bird”

 

 

14.   FAVORITE HOLIDAY: Your relative’s favorite holiday might make for a unique name. Consider names like:

 

EASTER, NOELLE, VALENTINE

 

 

15.   NAME FROM RELATIVE’S CULTURAL BACKGROUND: Honor your relative’s cultural background (and yours, too) by choosing a name from that culture. For example, if your family has Russian roots, you could consider names like:

 

LILIA, NATALIA, PAVEL

 

 

16.   FAVORITE SEASON: Similar to months, seasons make great names, too. Consider:

 

AUTUMN, SUMMER, WINTER

 

 

17.   FAVORITE SINGER: If your relative has a favorite singer, he or she might have a name you’d like. Some names that would work are (consider first and last names):

 

DEAN MARTIN, ETTA JAMES, JOHNNY CASH

 

 

18.   FAVORITE RELIGIOUS FIGURE: Does your relative have a special connection to a particular religious figure? If your relative is Catholic, some good saint name options are:

 

CELIA, JUDE, PAUL

 

 

19.   PATRIOTIC NAMES FOR VETERANS: If your relative is a veteran, there are several patriotic name choices you can consider, including:

 

QUINN — “leader”

SHAMARA — “battle ready”

WYATT — “strength in battle”

 

 

20.   COMMON TRAIT: Does your relative share a common trait with your new baby (or do you think they will)? Interesting options include:

 

CALLIOPE — “beautiful voice”

CASSIDY — “with curly hair”

ROWAN — “redhead”

 

 

21.   QUALITY YOU’D LIKE YOUR BABY TO INHERIT: You love your favorite relative for a reason and would probably love to see your baby inherit his or her great qualities. What do you love most?

 

CHARITY, FAITH, HOPE

 

 

22.   FAVORITE CHARACTER: What about your relative’s favorite fictional character? If your relative is a Jane Austen fan, you might like:

 

DARCY, ELLIOT, ELIZABETH, EMMA

 

 

23.   FAMILY RELATIONSHIP: Consider naming your baby after the relationship he or she shares with your favorite relative. For example:  

 

OLA — “ancestor”

TIA — “aunt”

ZAIDA — “grandfather”

 

 

24.   FAVORITE CAUSE: Is there a particular cause close to your relative’s heart? If world peace is your relative’s greatest wish, consider names with “peaceful” meanings, like:

 

FREDA, GARETH, HARMONY

 

 

This is a long list of baby name ideas for you to consider, but it’s just the tip of the iceberg. You can get as creative as you want while looking for ways to honor your relatives.

 

Do you have good suggestions for other readers? Post a comment and share your idea!  

 

  Amanda

 

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

Your question might appear in a future edition of Ask Amanda.

 

 

For more information on baby names and their meanings check out

BABY NAMES MADE EASY: THE COMPLETE REVERSE-DICTIONARY OF BABY NAMES

 

 

What do you do When Mom & Dad Disagree Over Baby Names?

It’s no surprise that mom and dad won’t always agree on everything, no two people could. But what do you do when you can’t agree on a name for your baby?

Here are three ideas for how mom and dad can get on the same page about baby names:

1) MAKE TWO LISTS OF NAMES: Mom and dad should separately make a list of names they like — pick your top 10 to 15 names. Then compare lists — if you have something in common, great. If not, be open to the other’s picks and try not to veto anything right away. Try using combinations from each person’s list for first and middle names. Maybe a combination will work as a compromise. If dad likes Archer and mom likes David, then Archer David or David Archer might be the right name for you.

2) DITCH THE NAMES & FOCUS ON MEANING: If you can’t agree on a name, agree on a name meaning. Then go through the names that fit your definition and start your list over together with names that are meaningful for both of you.

3) FAMILY TREE: Pull out your family trees and look for names that show up on both. You might not have come up with the name on your own, but seeing the family history may convince you to change your mind.

These are just a few ideas for how you can handle those sticky name disagreements. Put them to the test and see what happens. I’m sure you will be able to come up with a name that you both love!

Amanda

If you have baby name questions for me, email me at amanda@amandabarden.com.

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Don’t Want to Name your Son “Junior” and Expect Family Drama as a Result? Read These Tips Before you Break the News

 

What can you do when you anticipate family conflict over what you plan to name your baby?

 

Babies are supposed to be happiness and joy and all things good. But sometimes, even the best of times bring about stressful situations. I recently heard about a mother who was worried because she knew that her husband’s parents expected their grandson to be named after his dad, grandfather and great-grandfather. She and her husband were struggling because they didn’t want to continue the naming tradition, but they also didn’t want to alienate the grandparents. Tricky indeed!

 

Here are some ideas for how to handle this sticky situation:

 

1. BE HONEST, BUT KIND — If you know that a family member is going to be upset that you’re ending a family tradition, a little preparation can go a long way. When you break the news, be ready to share all the reasons why you’re doing so. Keep the conversation positive by focusing on why the name you chose is meaningful for you instead of being critical about the family’s long-standing naming tradition. 

 

 

2. CREATIVE COMPROMISE — Say the family name is Matthew Henry Smith. You may like the name just fine, but you just don’t want your son to be the fourth family member with an identical name. You could try a few things:

 

 

 

Middle Name — You could use “Matthew” or “Henry” as the middle name. You could even do a double middle name and use both. For example, Noah Matthew Henry Smith.

 

 

Different Name, Same Meaning — “Matthew” is a religious name that means “God’s gift.” You could use a different name with a religious meaning to show that you value the meaning and history behind the family name, while still choosing a unique name for your son.

 

 

Same Name with a Twist — You could use an International variation of Matthew (Mateo, Mats, Matisse, Matthias) or Henry (Hendrix, Enrique, Enrico, Henrik, Errico).

 

 

Switch the Order — Instead of Matthew Henry, maybe you prefer Henry Matthew.

 

 

3. REMEMBER, IT’S YOUR BABY — At the end of the day, remember that this is your baby and you can name him whatever you want. Your family should recognize and respect that. If they don’t there might not be anything you can do about it. After all, you can’t please everyone and when it comes to naming your baby, you definitely need to please yourself.

 

 

 

Have you had this problem? If so, let us know how you handled it! Post your comment here.

 

  

   Amanda